We can want it "all" but we can't have "everything"..

We can have it "all" but we can't have "everything".. 

I read this article on LinkedIn about a mom whom I believe is a business women and a mother, shared her view of a balance work + family life.. or in her opinion, is not balance work and life thing, it's a life thing.. It's the way we choose to live with the responsibilities that we have.. I think it is a good read and encourage women to be empowered to do more but at the same time not to neglect our family. We can have it "all" and we must first clearly define what is "all" to us.. 

Mine would be God in my Family, in my Ministry and in my Work; and all 3 are my life given by God.. (what does not make it into my "all" list. I don't get to travel often never mind; I don't get me-time often it's ok; I don't get to enjoy time with friends as often -- I"ll ask them to become my family LOL!!!) anyway, I hope you get what I mean.. there's a lot of things I would love to do more often.. (like getting more time to blog) but it's ok.. I do my best when ever I can here but I must remember my priorities.. 

Everyone's "all" is different.. So What is the definition of your "all"?? 

Photos from Pinterest that is currently in my phone

Pretty right!!!!! So I guess you all know what I have been thinking about ahahahaha ;P 

Ok, that is all for now.. More photos later.. Hehehehe 

My chicky little Melissa..

My sweetie pie... I love you!!!

Father's day this Sunday..

It's not easy to please a father yet at the same time it takes very little to please him also.. 

Complicated? yes.. 

The only thing that matters to a father is what he deems most important to him.

We get that done, everything else is additional.

Some fathers I can see have very very high expectations toward their children.

Some of those expectations scares me because it's really scary!

I suppose since the child is part of you, as a father, you will know his/her limitations. 

but I always question how to motivate or push our children to do and to be the best they can be in the right way.. Not in the negative way coz they would be really scary.. coz by doing that in the end, will drive the children away from us parents.. Is it by living enough? No need to tell or teach, just live like how you want them to live and then just let them figure it out on their own.. too slumber don't you think? 

We must teach, guide and most importantly discipline. Something I too still learning.. 

I love to eat salad.. i eat it all the time.. but My kids don't even want to give it a try.. So do i force it on them to eat salad with me as much as I can? there's some techniques others may have used like, give it to them when they are really hungry and have nothing to eat but salad.. ahahaha interesting right?? I could do that if i had the patience too and parenting is not just me doing all the work, my hubby must also support the idea and the culture that we want to bring into the family.. My hubby hates salads.. we almost have the opposite taste of almost a lot of things.. food, entertainment, holiday locations, leisure preference etc.. how to feed my kids salad when daddy don't even touch it? :( hard! but not impossible!! I will not give up!! hahahaha

It may not happened right away or as fast as I want my children to eat healthy, but I believe if I keep at it and persistently influencing them to eat healthy, eventually I believe they will eat and better, learn to love it.. If i force and force and force which sometimes I do but not as often, they may grow up hating the sight of a veggies.. like me and one of my friend.. don't even want to try ordering fish if we can avoid it.. LOL.. 

Still I am not sure if I am doing the right thing coz there are family and friends out there still insist that I must, the word is MUST force them to eat..  Eat some and as much as they can, yes, i understand its a must.. and some people has done it so well!! (i really must learn from these successful parents) but for me, it's not that easy because both me and my hubby have different preference.. 

Just like what the picture is saying "one day our children will follow our example rather then from our advise.." (I hope they will take my lead to eat healthier food later in their youth..) Just like no matter how we hated what our parents did to us? We still continue doing it to our own children.. perhaps, that is the only way we know how to teach from our own childhood??.. unless we have a renewed mind and learnt something different to do it through a better way.. 

Another question came to mind.. Why the western culture have very brilliant ideas and techniques to teach their young children etc but when they turn teens, they become someone else totally and the parents can't say  or do anything to stop it? hmm.. of course not all but more problems teens from the western world then in Asia.. right? or only those that was not taught properly during their young aged turned out to be so? Is it caused by the different in teaching and nurturing techniques? or Culture? or timing? or what? anyway.. let's keep this topic till next time..

ta for now..

Today's word says it all...

We have a choice today and everyday to be joyful and grateful. 

When you are with someone who are in mourning, mourn with them, you will bring comfort to them.

When you are with someone who are rejoicing, rejoice in their happiness and be joyful for them,

they will thank you for celebrating and sharing their best hours.

It's not that our emotions are determined by others, no, it doesn't.. 

It's just that we care enough to the people around us that we want to do what is right for them at the time.

but believe us when we tell you this..

We choose to be grateful, thankful and joyful no matter what.

Because we are learning to trust in Jesus. 

He is our ultimate Hope, our ultimate Future, our ultimate Savior. 

No one can calm us down like He does. No one can grow us like He does.

No one can love us like He does. No one can accepts us like He does. 

No one else but Jesus. 

~ He transform trials into Blessings ~

(open your eye big big and see!!! :)

Paintball event!! pew pew pew~~~

hahahaha.. just finished getting 20 confirmed players for our CPY paintball games for next month.. why so urgent? coz we need to buy the groupon during their promotional period... within less than 24 hours, 20 ppl and more actually confirmed!! wah!!! God is good!!! praise the Lord for everything.. 

Settled everything and now just waiting for the day to come :D so happy!!

As I was preparing for this event. Suddenly made me realize something eternal.. I emphasize a lot with the confirmed players that they cannot back out from a last min absence because if they do that, they will still need to pay the fees despite they attended or not. Payment due when registering..

Made me think that it is like our walk with Jesus, 

"But don't begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first calculating the cost to see if there is enough money to finish it? (New living translation)

The players are given time (very short time) to think they can commit on coming for the event or not and once they commit, they must pay up. And if they acted irresponsibly and disappeared on that day, they will still need to pay the cost. So think carefully before you sign up for this.. 

Now this verse isn't talking about believing in Jesus or receiving salvation.. That's different. Receiving God's salvation is by faith and by grace. Freely and there's no cost to it. Jesus has already paid the cost on the Cross. But when we want to really make a difference in our lives and in other people's lives, there's a cost to pay and that is when we need to really pay for it. And before we all want to do great and marvelous things for God and His kingdom, first we need to really count our cost, would we do what ever it takes to be obedient to God and His calling? Everyone's cost is different but everyone has a cost to pay for following Christ.. make no mistake of that.. Don't try to compare your cost with another person because everyone is different and unique so never compare.. 

Of course, in our paintball case those who misses it can always pay more, play with other ppl and set their own rules (time, dates etc) which may not cost much at all.. It's just more time and money. But in following Christ, it's really something we can't take for granted. Yes, God is a God of second, third etc chances.. but if we don't rise up when we are called to rise up (Like Queen Esther), we are actually disobeying, so what will happen? Your blessings will be pass down to the next person God called to fill in our place, and that person will receive the blessings and honor we suppose to receive. We just missed the train and have to wait till the next time. God doesn't ask us to go do mission work without first preparing us (See how God prepared and paved the way for Esther to be Queen?), don't worry.. God knows us soooo well, He will guide us step by step, bit by bit, and stage by stage... but in the beginning, would we be willing to pay the cost for each step, each move, be patience and trust in Him.. tt's the real task. 

Sometimes our disobedience will cost us more then just getting the next person doing what we are suppose to do for God's Kingdom.. Sometimes, there's just no one else to do it because others was not prepared by God like how He has prepared us ever since He made us in heaven. Gave us the kind of parents we have to mold and teach us, the kind of friends and enemies that inspired us, the kind of situations and circumstances that shaped us etc.. No way God can just give your life assignments to someone else.. Like Jesus's life assignment. He is God and also a human being, he can choose.. to obey or to rebel.. have you ever thought what will happen if Jesus disobeyed God, Our Heavenly Father?? It will never happened right? I say why not? He had a choice, Jesus choose to obey because He knows what He has to do or else, many will perish. 

Following Christ is an everyday task, have you counted your cost? You have a choice, make the choice you choose be worth your while.. 

National Geographic just behind the backyard..

Interesting sight.. to see wild boars running in and out of my In Law's compound. Of course they were attracted by the nice smell of coconuts that was put there as bait.. 

There were 3 different family of wild boars that stroll in that day.. 

1st batch of 3 teen - youth adults wild boars.. 

2nd batch was a group of 3 little piglets.. 

 The 3rd was 4 little hungry piglets.. 

It was really fascinating to see this so up close!! my 2 kids was about to watch them eat the coconut as well.. it was amusing for about 3 min.. hahaha.. There's no point in catching em' coz we don't have the heart to kill it for food, nor able to keep them as pets.. Just like to see them and enjoy their presence.. a wild pet without restrain or ownership.. :) I have seen a full grown wild boar waltzing into the compound b4.. HUGE man!!! very amazing encounter with this wild life.. 

My father in law is very creative and I thank God for him..