Trying not to be emotional about it...

How do I explain how I feel about my life right now... Well.. Feelings are over rated!! Hahaha I refuse to let my feelings get in the way of my day and my life, even though feelings and emotions is a big part of me.. My intuition and my gut feelings are from my emotions.. But this time, being emotional about it is not going to work.. I know how I feel and I know what I should do and I will do it right and with a clear conscious.. I will not do what I think is not right and if I have to do it, then I will have to walk away from the temptation.. In Joseph situation, run! Remind me to run HS, and not be the person I hate to be.. Coz I know i am a better person..
I struggle with this like a torn stuck to my foot... Painful and irritating! Trying to pull it out and throw it away the moment I can..only God knows what am I talking bout and out siders will think an conclude my situation on something else entirely.. Cannot blame ppl geh, coz others dun know geh mar.. Only few knows what am i talking about and what am I struggling right now...
Anyway... I know God will have His way with me.. I hope I learnt it and passed it with flying colours.. Either that or I failed and redo the test again... I dun want the later!!! :( let me pass let me pass~~ I dun want to redo... Let me settle down and focus on this part of my life right now.. Lord, help me with patience and perseverance.. Give me wisdom and knowledge.. I need Your help more than ever my Jesus.. Amen...

Valentine's Day for the ladies..

Valentine's Day.. hmm.. can't remember the last time we celebrated it.. with hubby I mean.. I don't really mind geh lar.. I rather he remembered our wedding anniversaries and our birthdays.. Especially my children's birthdays.. because I gave birth to them and the experience was amazing.. 

He was there for both of my delivery.. even though when I had Melissa, I had to wait for him to come to the hospital while he went home to see how Alexander was doing with my in laws.. waited for about 20-30min.. wah.. sakit oh.. :P Thank God he made it in time and it was not a problem for our baby.. phew.. 

For the ladies out there, it's ok if your man do not celebrate Valentine's day.. celebrate everyday together or some other really special day just for the two of you.. Don't expect too much from your man, expect what is needed to be expected and not over expect.. like being responsible, faithful, caring etc.. And, this is very important.. if you want or like something to be done by your guy, JUST TELL HIM. Don't get up set or angry because he cannot read your mind! ahhahaha.. sounds familiar ler.. I know what most of you are thinking coz I am a women too and was a young girl before.. I know we can be expecting a lot from a guy but the wise thing to do is not. Just expect what is needed and not what we wanted. 

Think about it, you really want a guy who knows what you feel like having? know how you feel? read your mind? know you expectations every time? really meh?? there's no such ideal man.. (may be got lar but how long can that guy do that?) we all will grow differently as we grow in our character, career, family life, emotionally, spiritual etc.. and now perhaps he knows everything about you but for how long? after 5 year? 10 year? 20 year? would you still be the same? or would he still be the same? i think not.. As a couple, we need to grow to understand each other and stop expecting unreasonable request. Especially us ladies.. You may think I am silly and weak (or a stronger word, stupid or dumb to take the guys side..) no I am not.. I am just saying be reasonable and understanding.. Your man is not superman! even Superman have weaknesses and limitations.. 

I did mentioned that we all grow and we will change.. doesn't mean you go and look for other compatible partners after you are married ah..  always stay faithful.. When we grow, allow your man to grow together with you, especially spiritually.. Let your priority in life be the same and be in line so that both of you can focus on what is important in life.. GROW together but don't expect the person to know everything.. Only Jesus knows you inside and out and things that you don't even know about yourselves.. Only Jesus can be the perfect man for us ladies.. so don't expect our worldly man to be as perfect as Jesus.. we will only be disappointed.. 

So this Valentine's day, be reasonable ladies.. and for the guys.. don't be lazy, show love and care to your girl every time you have the chance to.. don't give me "I-have-no-time-lame-excuse". MAKE TIME! It need not be on a Valentine's day, like I said, it can be any day or everyday or even that one special meaningful day for the both of you..   

Listen

I just realized.. When we are talking or chatting with our family and friends.. Are we listening closely to what they are saying? When we listen, what is our focus? Do we focus on what the words used? The feeling? The negative or positive part of their stories?body language Etc..

I realized that there's another type of listening.. When our focus is on their hearts, tuning in every emotions, desire and even intentions.. What are they actually trying to tell us through their stories n worries n circumstances.. When we take time to care and think for a moment the condition of their hearts n souls we will begin to truly hear what they are really trying to say..

Let us listen closely...