Valentine's Day for the ladies..

Valentine's Day.. hmm.. can't remember the last time we celebrated it.. with hubby I mean.. I don't really mind geh lar.. I rather he remembered our wedding anniversaries and our birthdays.. Especially my children's birthdays.. because I gave birth to them and the experience was amazing.. 

He was there for both of my delivery.. even though when I had Melissa, I had to wait for him to come to the hospital while he went home to see how Alexander was doing with my in laws.. waited for about 20-30min.. wah.. sakit oh.. :P Thank God he made it in time and it was not a problem for our baby.. phew.. 

For the ladies out there, it's ok if your man do not celebrate Valentine's day.. celebrate everyday together or some other really special day just for the two of you.. Don't expect too much from your man, expect what is needed to be expected and not over expect.. like being responsible, faithful, caring etc.. And, this is very important.. if you want or like something to be done by your guy, JUST TELL HIM. Don't get up set or angry because he cannot read your mind! ahhahaha.. sounds familiar ler.. I know what most of you are thinking coz I am a women too and was a young girl before.. I know we can be expecting a lot from a guy but the wise thing to do is not. Just expect what is needed and not what we wanted. 

Think about it, you really want a guy who knows what you feel like having? know how you feel? read your mind? know you expectations every time? really meh?? there's no such ideal man.. (may be got lar but how long can that guy do that?) we all will grow differently as we grow in our character, career, family life, emotionally, spiritual etc.. and now perhaps he knows everything about you but for how long? after 5 year? 10 year? 20 year? would you still be the same? or would he still be the same? i think not.. As a couple, we need to grow to understand each other and stop expecting unreasonable request. Especially us ladies.. You may think I am silly and weak (or a stronger word, stupid or dumb to take the guys side..) no I am not.. I am just saying be reasonable and understanding.. Your man is not superman! even Superman have weaknesses and limitations.. 

I did mentioned that we all grow and we will change.. doesn't mean you go and look for other compatible partners after you are married ah..  always stay faithful.. When we grow, allow your man to grow together with you, especially spiritually.. Let your priority in life be the same and be in line so that both of you can focus on what is important in life.. GROW together but don't expect the person to know everything.. Only Jesus knows you inside and out and things that you don't even know about yourselves.. Only Jesus can be the perfect man for us ladies.. so don't expect our worldly man to be as perfect as Jesus.. we will only be disappointed.. 

So this Valentine's day, be reasonable ladies.. and for the guys.. don't be lazy, show love and care to your girl every time you have the chance to.. don't give me "I-have-no-time-lame-excuse". MAKE TIME! It need not be on a Valentine's day, like I said, it can be any day or everyday or even that one special meaningful day for the both of you..