Yeah right...

Who are you kidding?? Getting into a relationship when you are still young at age is cool? hahahaha

It wouldn't be so cool when you get dumped for another guy or girl eh?

Wouldn't be so cool when your precious ones decided to use all your money eh? (hey, pak tor is expensive ok? Especially for the guys coz you should always be a gentlemen.)

Wouldn't be so cool when your time that should be spent on your responsibilities was spent doing unnecessary activities eh?

In the long run, it wouldn't benefit anyone. We may benefit from learning what to do or what not to do during the courtship but that is IF we learn. If we don't, waste time, waste money, waste energy, waste our youth, waste our emotion, wasted every bit of ourselves.

Well, its hard to fight LOVE eh.. the spirit is willing but the body is weak.. too weak to resist being loved and to be loved in return.. It is hard, i know especially when you met your match (or you just think you have met your match.) So a few advise from a person who is also has a willing spirit but weak flesh..

Always threat each other with respect, as if you would like some one to threat your sister/mother. Share values and convictions of your life and discover do you see eye to eye. Understand each other from a friendship point of view before going into any deeper relationship. Get to know do you both see the same future together...

Are you ready for commitments, responsibilities, financial providence, tolerance, unconditional love & acceptance, being selfless? your answer may be yes.. so another question would be.. Do you think God would approve? Pray about it before you go into any relationship, the only peace we may have in any relationship is getting the approval from our Heavenly Father.. Don't get into it when its not time yet..

"Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." ~ Song of Songs 2:7~

Why ah??

Why we shouldn't skip church meetings or CG meetings?

Would like to ask.. would you consider skipping school a good practice or a bad one?

Of course you would say a bad one lar.. Don't kid yourself by saying other wise. You wouldn't advise your children to skip school for no apparent reason.

So why we can skip church? We go to school to learn and develop our brain, so we may learn how to think logically and practically. We go to Church to learn to live, to learn to listen and understand the word of God. So i ask you, which one is more important? To think or to live? Both??? good.. then why is skipping church because of some unreasonable reason should be reasonable? Lazy lar, cannot wake up on time lar, too tired lar.. A school would expel you for giving such excuses..

We study 5 days a week!! Monday to Friday.. and church service is only Sunday, do the maths.. We burn the mid night oil (just to pass an exam.).. but its so hard to spend just 5 min of our time to pray and read the word of God.. We learn Mathematics and Physics but we do not know how to handle relationships... So, I ask you.. Why is skipping school is unacceptable but skipping church is??

To the ones that is smart and capable in many ways, do you even know why you are so gifted? What can you do with all those gifts?? If you know God enough, you will know the answer, for those who doesn't.. please find out and how to do that?

DON'T SKIP CLASSES...

"The Spirit gives life; the flesh counts for nothing. The word I have spoken to you are spirit and they are life." ~ John 6:63~

Celebrate Life...

There are so much we can be glad about in life :)

Be glad for we have a family who love us, even if we took a wrong turn.
They love us for who we are and no matter what we have done.Family look out for each other. Family encourages each other. Family work together. Family listen to each other. Family (or at least tries to) understand each other. Family support, trust, reply on each other and faithful to each other. But a family with a Father, a son and a Holy Spirit would be the best family anyone would want.

Be glad for we have friends who cares for us, even if we make mistakes.
Good friends are hard to find. A friend who listens at all times and cares for you are like precious gems. Friends who shower you with kind words are like rain on a summer day. Friends who helps at all times are like food when you are hungry. Friends who gives wise advise are like a candle in the dark. But a friend who dies for you on the cross is one who deserves all you have.

Be glad for life which we live in, even if its not perfect.
Life is full of beauty and wonders. Life would be full of laughter if only we laugh with others more. Life would be more enjoyable if only we enjoy it meaningfully. Life would be brighter if you just turn on the light! Why live in the dark? heehee.. Life would be brighter if you live not just for yourself, but for others around you, those you love, those you care most, those who needs your love. Life would be great when you know the Almighty God....

....who is your family, your friend and your life...

Life is so cruel at times

Being in love should be a wonderful experience, yet for some its agonizing. Especially if you are going out with someone who is self-centered, unreliable, unfaithful and lawless.

People who are not afraid of anyone, not accountable to anyone, who doesn't need to answer their actions to anyone would mostly fall into this category. I once ask a friend who he fear most and being a normal guy, he said his dad :) "So,you mean if you did something wrong or disrespectful you will fear getting a scolding from him? or even fear you will disappoint him?" "Yes". Ok, at least he fear his dad,so he is accountable to his dad. But what if one day your dad is no more around? Who are you going to answer to? Who are you going to be accountable to? Or are you going to live your life like there is no accountability?

We should all be accountable to God, we should all fear God, fear not because He punishes but fear that we would disappoint Him, hurt Him by our action because we love Him.

If you are going out with someone who doesn't fear anyone, be very afraid, be very very afraid. For he/she doesn't need to answer to anyone for his/her action. He/she is the law in him or herself? No one is above him/her? No one can be more authoritative than him/her? People who fear no one is dangerous for they do not listen to reason for the reason they listen to are their own.

Even if they fear their parents or someone like their bosses etc, be afraid also. For they are easily influenced by their mentor's suggestions, ideas, way of life and actions. Man's heart is very deceitful so be very aware of your situations, I could be talking about you. Yes you!

So who do you fear most? Your mom? your dad? your siblings? your friends? your boss? your mentor?

I can tell you now, the only person you should be afraid to disappoint is God, Jesus.

Responsibilities & Commitments

In our busy time schedule, do we neglect to do the things that meant a lot to us? Like our responsibilities and commitment to one another as family,as friends and as members of Chirst? To our love ones, company and society?

All in all we have tones and tones of responsibilities and comitments.. All these responsibilities defines who we are, what we live for, who we doing it for, according to a speaker who came to share in our church one of our sundays... And I do think its true that if we do not have responsibilities or commitments, then what are we doing most of the time would be, not important enought to make any commitments or take any responsibilities.. not important enought to hang on to it, to stay with it, to grow in it.

Some of us do not want any (none, zero!) responsibilities. Its such a scary word!!! What if we are responsible for the failure? what if we are cannot make the right choice? What if we change our mind? How do we get out of it later? There is no turning back on responsinilities and commitments!!! aaaaAAAHhhhhHHHhh !!!!! HELP!!!!!

If we say we are busy doing this busy doing that.. but never once commit or be responsible for it.. then we can just leave it and let is be.. which means its not important to you.. which means you can change your mind and go and do other things you feel like doing.. and leave when ever you feel like it.. without feeling guilty or responsible..

Without being responsible or commited, can we achieve anything in live?

People who have done great things and have achived much, define their lives on those responsibilities and commitment they have made.. sometimes sustaining them through all the thick and thin of life itself. Jesus, Mother Terresa, Gandhi, Martin Luther King etc.. have took up much responsibilities in their lives to achieve what they have achieved..

When they took up the responsibility, the calling, the purpose of their being, they focus on it, build on it, stay with it and love it. With God our Father's grace, help & care, they are living it and living it to the fullest!!! So question is...

What responsibilities are you taking up now that defines who you are? If you don't have any, may be you should search inside yourself and find out.. better still ask the one who have created you-God.

Responsibilities and Commitments defines who you are; Convictions and Faith defines what you are made of.. until the next chapter :) Tata..