Hahahaha angry bird on our Christmas tree~

My little girl have made our Christmas tree her own..  

Hahaha made my Saturday morning great!!! This season is going to be great!! 

Perhaps I should try..

Try to close my FB account for a while and not look into it until 2014.. I really think I should take a break from FB since it is so addictive.. hmm.. Anyone out there wanna try it together with me? :)

Let's do it!!

I am logged out!!!

I am logged out from FB!!! They frozed my account and ask me for my ID! Sot meh!!! I am not going to send my ID like that!! So many identity theft in the world!! I rather live without FB.. Ask them go fly kite.. They wouldn't die without me also lar.. Worst comes to worst, I creat another account and start all over lar.. Kan? Apa susah? ........ Actually, troublesome lar!!!! All my contacts!!!! Old friends and family!! Can find lar but still.. >:( as if they took all my pictures and moments on FB..

Hmmmm... Suddenly made me realized about the virtual world.. It can a gone just like that!! And we thought we could savor it or keep it as a record of our lives but the fact is that, nothing really stays forever.. I mean nothing that is truly important.. Made me really think that FB is really not so important I guess? Erm.. I dunno~~~ yet~~~ coz I just lost the acc >~< I may have FB withdrawal later.. How? 

A defense on Christmas Generosity.. (Original title "In Defense of Christmas Consumerism")

The title is actually high lighted by one of the readers in RELEVANT FB page.. it should not be Christmas Consumerism but Christmas Generosity.. :)

Relevant Magazine have some really good write ups including this one about Christmas Generosity.. I say it generosity because it is about being generous and it is about sharing God's goodness and love.. 

I understand that everyone have their choice and they have their own right for the way they think, and I am sure not everyone agrees with the writer because all of us see things very differently.. I am just asking that we examined ourselves and not loose the fun and joy of Christmas like Scrooge did.. Be joyful and have a heart of thanks giving for all things good God has done in our lives and thank Him for being there for us during the bad.. 

Christmas is about God's love, grace and generosity.. Jesus came as a precious gift to mankind.. Cherish this time of giving and receiving.. That's all I am asking you to think about..

Hello little angry bird...

Finding little angry bird amongst the busyness of a toodler's life..

Peek-ka-boo!~~~ I see you!~~~

Aiya aiya.. I am squashed!!! 

Just hanging around..

Wait, where did the camera go?? I can't see it anymore?.. 

TEDxKLWomen

Yes! I went for a TEDx conference! Awesome conference and some of the speakers are really interesting and inspiring..  First thing I learnt! Some of the hair band you see on 'Gossip Girls' (Yes, it's the drama Gossip Girls) is actually produce n designed by these two girl from Kuching!!! Interesting right!? It's so surreal! Who would hv thought it would be possible? I was wondering where Gossip girls find all those nice hair bands. Hahaha mana tau, it's custom made.. No wonder.. Now makes me wonder how much they cost.. :) 

This is really awesome food art and paper art! Why paper art? Coz she can cut out the design on a sea weed.. Very pro!!

We had mostly young speakers and the one that really stand out was Cheryl Yeoh. Why? Because she is down to earth and you can see that she is wise beyond her age.. She gave good advise and relevant to all if not most ppl there. What I learned from her.. EXPLORE, just explore your options, passion and try out new things.. People who are successful tried other things before and many of it failed until they landed on that ONE thing that was meant for them to do that made them successful.. so explore your gifts and passion and see where it may leads you. 

Second lesson: DON'T literally take the advise that ask you to follow your passion. LOL.. many do give that advise even myself (and most of the people who spoke during the conference) but I agree with her totally.. Passion can die down when success does not follow.. so what to do when our passion slowly withers away? it does not make you a bad person or a quitter, it just means that you need to find your passion again and sometimes, that means moving on and doing other things.. Which she did.. After her first success (and it was her first baby) she moved on to another project and now she is passionate about what she is doing there! 

After that, we have this Nigerian Performance called Kafayat Quadri that sang for us.. It was lovely and beautiful.. I enjoyed it so much! She works in a lawyer firm (if not mistaken as a lawyer) but she also ventured into a poetry magazine business.. Many people question "who would want to read poetry now a days?" But she persevered but at the same time thought about how to reach out to people so that they would listen to her and read her poetry? Can you all guess it? She started singing it and reaching out to people through her songs.. Inspiring right? 

Another speaker that really caught my attention is Joanne Kam.. I am sure a lot of people out there knows her name.. SHE is so funny, 'ham sap' and proud of it! Some of her jokes are x-rated lar but she is just being herself and it made people laugh.. She has a lot of ventures on her plate and being a single mom, she can really juggle her time well. 

This is a fusion kinda project which I think , if they didn't get any permission from Star Wars to use their characters, can end up with a law suit.. Just saying that Star Wars has an intellectual property rights.. We can't just fusion famous character and made it our own.. I think our community should be enducated with this fact.. Even images, I cannot sell these images for a profit because there is no model or property release.. I am using this images for personal blogging use, that is not to resell ah.. So it's different..

Anyway, people need to know that we cannot simply do a project like this without consulting with the original character makers lor.. That's all I am saying...

Now all the positive have been said, let me share to you something I think is bad advise for the young generations (or even for the older ones.) "It's so easy." when someone said that, automatically some of your audience will conclude, "of course lar, your family is rich, can afford to support you and you don't have any family obligations; Of course lar, you got so many rich friends, so easy to raise money; It's all about network, connections and who you know geh lar. etc" There was a girl sat next next to me that altered that "Her family must be very rich so that she could do all this creative things without needing to work." Of course she also ""Oooo and wah..." when she saw the person's work but how many of the people on stage that night actually started off with a humble background? That is my real question lor..

Of course we can choose to ignore that some of them are from a good back ground, but really..... how many of us can afford to do what they are doing while having our family obligations to attend to? Like a sick family member; a special child; a father with debts; failed businesses etc.. At the same time, there are so many young people out there who has everything and still do not know what to do with their lives and wasting their time on nonsense.. true also.. So How? 

I still believe a person should choose to live a life with a noble purpose, with a good calling. Not something that could endangered other's or corrupt society. So, it doesn't matter if many people who could live their dream or passion because their family is rich.. Be happy for them because they have found something they are passionate about. But when we go home and when we look at our circumstances, don't give up on our dreams while taking care of the things that matters to you most.. Don't be irresponsible but don't give up either.. work hard and hang in there..  

Nonsense phone call..

I received a sales call today and while she was rambling about her product, I politely but firmly stopped her so she could get to her point, then she asked me, "You Malay ke? Indian ke? atau Cina yer?" That got me lar!!! "Does that matter?! I don't think it matters and these sort of question should not be asked on a sales call! EVER! I am a Malaysian!"

ok, your product may be focus Muslim travelling destination or Chinese cultural destinations etc.. But one should not ask so bluntly what race are you in a sales call to gauge your customers preference.. You should explain what you have or ask relevant questions like "What dream destinations do you have in mind?" "What kind of experiences do you look for during your travelling?" etc.. ini tidak, terus tanya "Are you this or this or that??" ello!? irrelevant and rude ok? buat marah je.. ceh.. 

Sudah, don't wanna talk about it.. 

Nah a Mandarin TEDxPEtalingStreet talk for u to understand why we Malaysian are Malaysian.. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bS1SLCk0Vbw

Yes, I have a Muslim name, a Sino-Native, speak (Mandarin, Cantonese and Hakka) and look like a Chinese, believe in Christianity and I am a Malaysian! (Don't you forget that!!!)

The "North pole"

My hand writing for today is really lousy.. Hahaha may be as the day pass, my hand writing will look better.. I may need to warm up before I star writing on a nice brochure like this one..

Where did I have the 'north pole'? It's from FreeMori :) some of their cakes are delicious!!! And some of their bread are so yummy!! I am nt a fan of too much cheese.. So this one got an average rating from me.. 

Let it go... FROZEN by Disney..

This is a wonderful movie for girls.. LOL.. yes girls.. it's not about love between 2 lovers, well, a bit lar but rather about the love for your sibling(s).. the love between sisters.. 

From the way I see it, it was about overcoming the misunderstanding between two sisters.. Elsa, the elder sister, the new queen and the one with the magical 'cold' touch.. but her heart is not cold, her intention has always been pure, her love has always been for everyone.. and yet because of fear in herself and in others made her so dangerous.. 

Only her sister, Anna, who, no matter what, would still put her life for the sake of Elsa because she knew, she knew Esla was just been misunderstood by everyone.. Who wouldn't be? She has been kept hidden until she has to learn to even hide her feelings, her kind heart and her well intentions etc.. it's hard not to be yourself you know? And Elsa is not a bad person... She is just trying to protect those that she cares and loved most.. She didn't mean to create fear but for others who doesn't understand, couldn't understand... 

I find one of their song tracks really powerful, burned in my soul as if that was my past and even though it was not exactly what happen to me, still it feels like I too sang out because of freedom! Accepting who I am because I am not a bad person, Jesus loves me and He died for me. Surely I am precious enough for someone to love me like that right? I was always been misunderstood, and yet Jesus still understand me and no matter what mistakes I made, His love endures forever! And He too sacrificed Himself, His comfort, His life, His glory... for my sake so that I may come to God through His ACT OF TRUE LOVE. (Do you see it now? :)

As you listen to the song, I hope you will also feel the power and the excitement rising from within your heart! Even though this song was sang as Elsa, who thinks tt is it better to be all alone and leave her past behind her, yet in the end we all know that she is to die for! That's how priceless you are to God. 

Anyway.. Enjoy, "Let it Go" by Demi Lovato and "Let it Go" by Idina Mensel (Orginal track)

For the Lyrics: "Let it Go" by Disney Wiki :)

What I feel right now...

Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don't expect it from cheap people. -- Warren Buffet

Awaken..

I was awaken by a splitting head ache.. And many time when I am awaken in the middle of the night and can't go back to sleep quick.. There's something God wants me to pray or think about.. And sure enough, I found 2 very strong impression in my mind that I know I must do later today..

God always have His purpose He always brings us trough tough times and allow us to check our hearts and spirit.. Even when others don't know you, Jesus knows you and when we pray according to His will, His will shall be make known to man.. No one may support the idea now and eventually when things happen, others don't remember that it was already fore told..

I wonder, what lies ahead for your servant oh Lord.. I know You will not forsake me because You have showed me your favor when some would not.. Your will be done on earth as it is in Heaven.. I hope I am right to do what I am about to do.. May your peace guide my path of a true servant and a good steward.

Weird dream...

I had a weird dream that I remembered this morning.. It was a very 'Kan cheong' moment, like the movie '2012' or 'Independence Day' etc.. A dream about survival and the end of world kinda dream.. So I manage to escape an earth quake said to destroy earth or at tht time a place where I lived with my family..

In my dream, Nigel n my children does not exists.. I remembered making it with another person but it was not my brother, it was someone else close to me, a close family friend or a relative, I can't really remember her-I know it's a her lar.. Then I remembered a police women (very pretty and young) do not allow us to go trough because it was too dangerous, but I and my friend managed to find a way through it and went looking for my mom so I could bring her to safety, my brother was with her too.. But during that journey I could not find her, no one at her place knew where she was.. I was in despair but I am not giving so easily!

Then, I made the second trip down and people that I talked to keep telling me 'your mom is back, your mom is back!' So I rushed to where she and my brother should be and saw a bath tub with clean water in a room ( don't ask me why coz it's not logical.. Dreams are sometimes not logical..) then next to it I saw my mom lying there looking a little dirty.. Not with mud or rags but just feel like she have been out for a long time without a bath.. 

Then the moment we see each other, she started to cry and I remembered as if I said to her 'don't cry, you are safe now, you are going to be alright.' Then we got her up and going out... Dream ended..

I am not sure yet what it all means.. But my mom has passed 5 years (next year Feb) ago.. 

And 5 years ago today (or during this time of the year) she came and stayed with me for my confinement.. 

Photo Time with Magnum Mini at Publika..

This was like few weeks ago in Publika.. We had fun taking photos here.. hahaaha... a bit weird when other people are watching but hey, after the photo session, we get a free Magnum Mini, what more do you want? haha.. The decoration and setting is really really nice.. I like it.. I took one with my son on Saturday when I went to Publika to meet up with my Corbis Gals, and another day, well a normal working day lunch time with my friend Rachel.. It was not exciting fun but it was fun :)

My Son is like going to eat the ice cream.. hehehe...

 hmmm... Magnum Mini... nice.. lol

Come Publika once a while, there's so much to see here.. coffee from Red Bean Bag, Coffee Societe and Hot Shots are some of my Fav Coffee... art and crafts shops are plenty here.. and once a while there will be art fair!! one is coming soon in Dec!!! I am thinking of doing something but I may not have enough supplies to open a shop this round.. :) may be I can plan for next year's art and craft Bazaar in Publika! :D 

Till next time!! tata!

Meow~~~~

Taby: The black cat that visited my In Law's house and now call it home..

Interesting idea...

Read this article title that states a parent's decision to band their daughters from watching TV for a year and sent them out on 100 outdoor challenges to complete!

Great idea!!!! LOL.. but outdoor challenges some or most need $.. have to budget budget lor.. some ppl why they rather just stay home and watch TV ah, is really because nothing to do and dun wanna spend extra money.. TV already paid for.. so watch saje lar..

Of course it's great to go out and just enjoy the great outdoor, the beauty and the fresh air... NOT easy to find those in the city where I live in-- KUALA LUMPUR... I was from Kota Kinabalu, Sabah.. use to stay in a small village called Kampung Sawah, next to a river! and then during my secondary school years, lived on a hill at an area call Berungis; then an area called Kolombong (near a small town); then Menggatal (another small town) and while I was studying in Uni, My family moved to Penampang.. most of the places that I stayed in Sabah when I was very young was either near the River or on top of a Hill.. it was fantastic!!! The best childhood memories was being in the great out doors!!

Last time the outdoors was the convenience.. now, it's a luxury.. especially for those who are living in the city.. Many of my family and relatives envy that I stay in KL, because of the progress, the speed and efficiency of goods and services are made available to us.. Better Salary, great food (a lot more varieties), convenient to shop and the varieties of shopping available, entertainments (the latest one) etc are very enticing! Would I live differently if I were to move back to Sabah? hmm.. perhaps I would.. Life would pass by slower and it would be filled with going out to the beach, shopping at the wet market, a jog in the evening on Sundays, meeting up with family and friends like how I am trying to do it now in KL.. but it may be easier to do it in Sabah because it is less jam and everyone seems to be nearer..

When I was like 7-8 years old, I remembered waiting for my mom during work and I saw this beautiful horse near by the field, it was a racing horse actually, Sabah people still race horses sometimes.. So I got out of the car, and slowly walk towards the horse.. she was not too scared of me then, and I was so intrigued by her that I went up very very gentle and slowly to touch her... butt! LOL.. Now come to think of it, it was SOOOOOO dangerous!!! She could have kicked me off flying and got my head injured or something.. but thank God the experience was a pleasant one.. she turned back and pimped at me a little but didn't much move away.. then I touch her again and may be it tickled her a bit so she moved a little.. I giggled at my small accomplishment.. then I slowly walk back to my car at the same time the horse ran off to her stable near by.. (i may even have talked to her like meeting a new friend.. you know how kids are.. I am those kind tt make friends with anyone and anything..)

Now, my children are not so fortunate.. mommy is so busy with her work n ministry she got less time to bring her sweetie pie out for a run and jump in the park... Haih.. I wonder what will my children remember for their childhood memories if they don't get to explore the great outdoors like their papa and mama use to.. Nigel used to set traps at his own back yard and catch either birds or lizards.. lol.. Oh what fun we use to have!! Now, the most times I see them running and laughing is when they are in the play ground, either indoor or outdoor... Last month we went to the beach once with my in laws and that was fantastic experience for my daughter but my son was screaming in fear.. I really should bring them out more often, take off their shoe and run in the sand...

honey, when is our next trip to the beach? I hope soon.. I hope every month..

From MPH :D

A grief observed by CS Lewis

This is one of those rare books that would caught my attention even though it's not and absolutely unattractive book on the outside.. But boy, it was worth a short read of 5 min on Tt 1 paragraph!

"God has not been trying to experiment on my faith or love in order to find out their quality. He knew it already. It was I who didn't."

This sentence is so powerful! Change my thinking about facing test, exams an challenges in life literally! We normally think that is it to test ourselves so other may know our capabilities and qualities.. But here we have our All knowing God, throwing challenges n crisis n circumstances daily at us.. not because he needs to or wants to know (coz He already knows.. Durrrr) but because we didn't know.. 

It is like a mirror.. The test is like a mirror.. When we face it, it shows us our reflection and there & then, what we do next determines what we actually walk away with.. 

What reflection do you see now in the mirror? Do you now know what is the condition of your heart, mind and spirit? Do you stay the same or do you walk away changed and knowing you have done your best..

T.T

Alexander sang a mandarin song to me after his bath yesterday, even though i can't understand most of what he was saying, it made me cry...... because he has come so far, improved so much and made me so proud of his little achievements..

Stop comparing already...

We would really be happier when we JUST stop comparing our lives with someone else's lives..

Stop comparing how good their house, spouse, cars and lifestyle they have and start appreciating your little apartment, your love ones, your Proton and your chosen life.. 

Someone who is filled with gratitude and thanks giving will always be more joyful and contented. 

I am not asking you to ditch your dreams and ambitions.. I am merely asking you to Thank the Lord for where ever you are now. No matter how tough, no matter how challenging, no matter how painful it is for you to go through this.. there's always a reason for it and there will be someone out there who needs you to make it work!! Because they need you to help them through it after you have gone through it yourselves.. 

Jesus called us to help him be a testimony to others, the Ambassador of Christ! doesn't mean that you become God.. but merely His servant who would love, live and reach out to people in need ON behalf of Jesus until the person can reach out to Jesus themselves.. 

In the mean time, STOP comparing your life with other ppl on FB or Insta or anywhere else for that matter, please.. I beg you to stop doing that! They face troubles and challenges too.. we just don't know it.. and don't idolize it just because they post it up with all the Happy, Romantic and Ideal things that you think make up a happy life or even a happy relationships..

You still wanna compare?? Compare with the happenings in Philippines lar!! Where actual people suffering from the lost of their homes, loved ones, car, schools, friends, almost everything!! Even the sense of security and peace was ripped out from them.. only chaos and uncertainty awaits them. Why don't you compare yourselves with them? haih.. Stop it already..

Let's pray for Philippines this whole week and stop comparing! Everyone has a story, everyone has a pass, everyone has to move forward, and hope the goodness we share will last..

God could have left Job Alone..

My youth posted this youtube vid on our CPY FB page and it really brought me to tears.. 

Titles: God could have left Job alone.. 

When I read the title, I was thinking "Didn't God left Job alone and that is why Job lost everything? I mean God didn't talk to him, didn't say anything to him, just allowed the devil to take away all that Job loved and leave Job to do what is right?" Then, I realized, what the sentence really meant... 

It means that, God can just don't do anything to Job's life and let Job have his way and his own life etc but what good would that make? you know what I mean? Would it be good if God would have JUST left us alone? with all we have and all we think that is secure and happy and blessed and etc... without the troubles, pain or even we call it interruptions in life? I am not talking about being emotional over everything that is happening in our lives. I am talking about real sufferings that makes us just fall down on our knees and cry.. just cry coz we don't know what to do next.. Sometimes that feeling of hopelessness, that intense feeling of being lost and oblivion and just froze! you know? you know ah?? you know what  I mean? 

I admire Pastor Bob's humility and courage, for 5 years, he continue to acknowledge his love for Jesus, for God. Even during his time of sufferings and pain.. It is courage, strength and most of all his choice to be living and not just knowing for God that made a difference.. (That's why he said he has lost all theology. because there's nothing in theology that could tell him what to do when these things happen?) There was testimonies and promises of the Lord.. but what made him go through this tough times? Was it all that Bob knows about the bible? the promises of God? We can't even claim the promises of God coz it's just too hard and we just couldn't understand it.. we could only choose to love God, as He had loved us, no matter what.. Trust in Him, no matter what.. Rely fully on Him, no matter what... and wait for His timing.. 

5 years, is a long time to wait for something to happen.. I wonder would we have the patience to go through something like that so God's will can be done in our lives.. Lord, we need your grace.. always. So we will see you face to face, one day.. 

Giggles with the one eye monster..

These photos was not my best angle for taking a photo of me but it was a special moment I share with Melissa many many times.. At home, at the mall, at church, before bed, on the couch, anywhere! 

We sometimes have that look-you-eye-ball-to-eye-ball moments and laugh about it.. 

Why? Coz it's funny! Have you tired it with your kids? When we do that, we see only one eye! Hahaha became a monster for a while and it's really funny.. Melissa has the sweetest giggles and I love to hear her laugh when ever we get to do this.. 

Try it with your kids and enjoy the giggles.. (Work on toodlers 4 and below, I think :p coz it doesn't seem to work for my son) XD 

Coffee Societe @Publika

I always enjoy dining here.. With their lovely coffee n sometimes delightful lunch meals, it's really enjoyable. 

It's cozy and the decoration is very relaxed.. Great to come alone or with a friend or two.. Great for a whole group too if you can get the big table thy have hahha with high stools to really make the place look young n modern.. 

Love their cuppucino without sugar.. 

So lovely..

I love flowers.. I wish I can hv a lovely bouquet every week! Hahaha can.. When I own my own florist meh can lor.. Kekeke.. 

Such a blessing..

I haven't been posting much lately have I.. Hahaha I cannot be so lazy!!! *slap hand. :p i keep having ideas about writing something but I have couldn't like just take my phone out and write it coz i got 2 toodlers who needs my attention, even when I was cooking dinner or even when I was in the car doing nothing I have to entertain and talk to them coz they just need me to.. I need more time!!! Oh dear... 

Yesterday, Sunday, we had a fantastic service.. I was touched by pastor Ari's message and God's message that I am now praying for specific purpose.. For myself this round coz I have been praying for others for so long I forget if I don't take care of myself, I am no good to anyone (not that I stop praying for others entirely, I think tts not cool. But I do need to focus on my relationship with Christ right now.) I need to get back on track to the basic and the fundamentals.. I really really need to and must.. 

Remember.....

老農民３句話 培養優秀的孩子！

老農民３句話 培養優秀的孩子！ 

很多沒有上過學的老農民培養出了優秀的孩子；
不少有知識、高學歷的城裡人卻把孩子管出諸多毛病，
甚至培養出問題孩子，
為什麼？

老農民沒知識但有智慧；
城裡人有知識但沒智慧。（知識不等於智慧。）

智慧的老農民三句話就培養出了好孩子：

第一句話：「孩子，爸媽沒本事，你要靠自己了。」
不包辦，把責任還給孩子，讓孩子擁有了責任心。

第二句話：「孩子，做事先做人，一定不能做傷害別人的事情。」
講德行，告訴孩子做人的標準。

第三句話：「孩子，撒開手闖吧，實在不行，回家來還有口飯吃。」
無私的愛，無盡的愛！

看看一些城裡人怎麼把孩子教育出問題的：

第一句話：「寶貝，你 好好學習就行了，其他的事情爸爸媽媽來辦！」
剝奪了孩子負責任的權利，培養出了沒有責任心的孩子。

第二句話：「寶貝，出去不能吃虧，別人打你一定要還手！」
基本的做人準則都沒有教對，可能培養出「缺德」的孩子。

第三句話：「我告訴你，你要是再不好好學習，長大沒飯吃別來找我！」
有條件的愛，根本不是真愛。

Copied from FB someone called Leon Teo.. 

Kids... Gotta love them and discipline them...

Do you know wht it feels like to give birth to a baby? I feel, finally I have the right to own this child.. Why? Coz throughout my pregnancy, I really do feel out of control, I mean I can do all sort of right things to make sure my baby is safe, healthy n protected but in actual fact, I hv no control at all! Wht happens in my womb I believe it's up to God to keep n protect.. As my baby grows in me, will I ever know how he would really turned out to be? Even the best and most modern tools and experiments cannot tell us for sure how my baby will turned out to be.. It can only, more or less, indicate your baby is normal, healthy or in danger... Really out of anyone's control.. 

So when I gave birth ah, Wah!!!!! The pain was so scruciating I almost fainted! I very much hate being in pain!! Hate hate hate!!! Thus, after all the trouble, pain n agony giving birth to this precious baby, FINALLY I feel the sense of ownership and responsibility that I never had before. I am committed bringing up my babies (yes, I have more than 1 baby) to the best that I could. 

And I know every mommies n daddies out there right now are doing their very best even though they feel they lack much wisdom bringing up their own children.. But rest assured that you are not alone and that you will do what is right for your children despite the inability that we posses.. Coz we love them, more than we know it, we love our children.. And no matter how others judge you and comment about your inadequacy ( yes ok, they meant well but to us it really doesn't seem like you really trying to help.) Hang in there!!! I know we go crazy sometimes with screaming children running around the house, the crying, the constant nagging of questions, wanting this and that and this and that!!! Drives us nuts! 

It is the bad times and the worst times that really make us appreciate the once a while, and ever so precious, good times.. When our children are asleep and we see our adorable little busy bees lay themselves to sleep in the still quiet night.. When they splash and laught while taking a bath, run and play in the fields, holding your hand while crossing the quiet streets, showing you the first snail they see on the flowers, holding you tight when the thunders roar... Just to name some of the very sweet moments we could share with our children.. It's really worth it.. 

Anyway, I am trying to make a point to not pass judgement on children who hv bad behaviour, coz I know they parents is doing their best.. I think we are allowed to hv our own opinions but we don't have the right to judge.. Let's support each other by not comparing our children, by respecting each others way of loving a child, by not passing judgement, by showing care, speak in kindness and act in grace. 

I am going to make a point today. To stop judging but start sharing encouragement n kindness. Nevertheless, if I see children is being disrespectful, having no manners and is out of control, I will step in. And I hope you, my friends, will not think that I am judging you or think you are not a good parent.. I know we are all good parents, giving our best.. And by me reprimanding them is my one way to support u, to lighten your burden to discipline them, so you don't need to always be the 'bad guy', and that wht you Asked them to do is wht other adults expects of them as well and not just because you said so.. Don't get up set when someone discipline your child for you out of love.. Of course if that person don't have a good relationship with you it's easy to see that they are not doing it out of love lar so I only reprimand the children of close friends.. 

Yummy moon cake

Moon cake festival is near!!! Yay!!! I love to eat moon cakes.. Not a lot of it but just a few bite would be nice... 

Went to leisure mall the other day and they hv some lantern decor.. Nice n creative.. Some very funny.. Got minions lanterns also lol silly.. 

Then I got 2 moon cake for my family n I.. 1 with white lotus single egg yoke and another normal lotus with double egg yoke.. I haven't tried it yet!!! I hope the yoke is nice n juicy.. I dun like the dry one.. Not nice when it's too dry.. 

I always buy Tai Thong Moon cakes I dunno why.. I think because they sell the more traditional type of moon cakes? I dun like the newer version where they have dragon fruit, durian, chocolate, coffee flavours etc.. I find it weird.. I tried chocolate before and didn't like it.. Dun think I would wanna try something new and as expensive as it is... 

Anyway, enjoy the festival my friends!!!

Creative and talented!!!

This is a drawing by my boss!!! Wah!!!! Geng ler!! When I asked him if I can have it, he showed me a funny face and said, "if you really want it?" Abuden? Of course I want lar if not I wouldn't have asked??? Dur... Hahahaha.. He some more say may be can sell for a few thousand and he could even sign it for me LoL!!! I know he was teasing me lar... To him is junk and why would anyone want junk.. But to me it's really a wonderful painting!! 

He is also a lefty, anyone out there a lefty!? My son is a lefty.. Wonder does that make them more creative :) my son do love to draw, paint n colour.. Not very good YET.. But he loves it.. :) 

More time to read n blOg..

I think, I will have more time blog from now on lol.. Why? Coz I will be taking the local transport to work soon! Save money and time coz it's too jam to drive to my new work place!!! 

KTM, you dun bully me ok? XD 

I found this sign on the door and have a kind of mixed feelings about it... As a women, I do feel more safe n comfortable coz I know I dun need to worry about unknown men to sit next to me.. But is this necessary?? Hmmm

Know our children well and teach them accordingly...

Just witness an argument, not really an argument but rather a Japanese mom explaining furiously to another mom, a european, about her child's (roughly 7 years old) bad behaviour towards her own child, who was having the toy first. (if I am not mistaken).. 

My take.. Dun mess with Asian moms LOL!!!! Their kids may seem hopeless but the mother hen is fiercer than a hungry lion! 

Made me wonder how should I react when I could be either one of the mother on the opposite side of the table... Hmmm... 

Everyone's teaching method is different.some very proactive while some passive but both teaches a hold something.. How to balance? How to teach so our children get the right lesson? 

I believe, it depends on our children's ability to access discipline, understanding and information.. Each child is different.. If our kid is selfish, we can teach them to share rather than further enforce that, 'I was playing with the toy first so its mine!!" While on the other hand should our kid is the passive type and always give way, we should enforce to him/her that she can command respect as well, by pointing out that, by right I have the toy first an you can have it later after I am done with it.." It would be out of kindness that I share it with you not obligated.. People should appreciate that and not take it for granted.. 

Well, that's my opinion lar.. What do you think? :)

I love my shoe!!!!

Don't you? Hahaha ok, you can disagree with me.. It's allowed here.. :p

I got this from Bangkok for only 100bath! Which come up to about RM 10.10? It's comfortable, adorable and hopefully durable as well :D I love it because its really special!! The two side dun match!!! Hahahah cute lar!!! I think this kind of shoe will cost me about RM39.90 at least? Depending where it is sold.. I saw a dress in publika sold for RM 150 where I saw a similar dress in Bk selling for only 400bath.. When will I get to go BK again!!! :p just go and shop with ma girl friends!! 

I know shopping is just a temporary happiness. It does not bring eternal value :) but when we share the joy with another friend or two, it becomes something special among friends that shares the same passion.. 

Just like sharing food!!! Hmmm... Yum yum... Eating sometimes for health but when eating yummy food with friends, it makes eating meaningful.. 

You know something else that when share with friends it becomes doubly great?! :) wht do you think?? 

I am really grateful to Jesus, my late mother n hubby...

God is really good, if Only i could find the time to just write the blessing I get everyday and share it to the world!! I am really grateful for His goodness.. 

I am from a very poor back ground where I use to only have my lunch with only rice and salted fish, not by choice. Not very nutrition either, but I never fell it was a bad thing until one day a friend of mine, I was in primary school then, pointed out to me that it must have tasted horrible coz only plain rice n salted fish wor? 

Haha I didn't mind, but it did got me thinking of my conditioned then.. Financial really poor with no help from anyone. My mom tried to work 2 jobs a day to hv food on the table.. Went the market on Sundays to sell her flowers and clean for ppl.. She really worked hard and gave her best for us..

With the food on my table now, I give thanks to my God, whom opened the doors of goodness and opportunities to his servants, and to my late mother, who worked hard, tough and firm so Tt I can a life I have now.. 

.. And to my sweet hubby, who allows me to indulge myself in good food while he dun mind having mixed rise for lunch everyday.. ( I no bully him lar... He really likes mixed rice more than fancy food..) 

Happy birthday Valerie!!!

Haven't been able to find time to up date my blog recently :) it's has been a great month with lots to do.. God has been great to me and my family.. 

Here's another family whom God has bless currently.. Baby Valerie is 1!!! Hahaha yea.. It was a great photo taking sessions and nice McD food..my kids got  2 new toys too!!! They played at the indoor playground and had yumilicious nuggets.. 

Doesn't the family look adorable!! Hahaha the cake was not only pretty but it was really nice!!! I love it!!! :d 

Hope little Valerie and her family enjoyed the day as much as we did.. And loved the gifts that was showered upon her on her 1 year old birthday :) 

When your calling is Boring.. by Relevant..

http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/when-your-calling-boring

After reading this, I became a little emotional for reasons only God knows why.. but roughly, perhaps I find that many ppl, young and old, are looking for their 'calling' and 'purpose' only to be define (by themselves and even by others) in the end to be boring, meaningless and not important enough.. 

Many of us see the need of a church, an organization or even in a family or among friends; criticize and complain about what should be done, why this and why not that etc. when what we should be doing is to be living in God's word and do our part right here right now... 

Ready to accept God's challenge, even when it means to be just where we are and who we are with.. The challenge is within us, not with the circumstances that is before us.. when Jesus, who is within us, becomes our ultimate focus, we can and will face anything and everything with supernatural vision and overwhelming joy even when it's a small thing to the world.. 

Ah~~~ Satisfaction to the fullest!! No wealth nor power; No fame nor fortune; No greatness nor recognition could fill my soul with great joy, besides the fulfillment of my God's calling No matter how big or small .. 

Philippians 4:8

"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things." ~Philippians 4:8

Things doesn't comfort you, People may fail you; but Jesus's love remains forever true. Tell Jesus lar ;)

Jesus has died for me so i could be with Him throughout eternity...

"May I never boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, through which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world." Galatians 6:14

Jesus has died for me so that I could live in eternity with Him and while waiting for that day to come, see a glimpse of heaven on earth.. I am truly grateful.

Life is not without challenges but with all challenges, difficulties and obstacles.. It's an opportunity to grow, to learn and be better every time! It's tough going through those times and the blessings may only last a short whilr... But.. It's really really worth it when we know it will last for eternity later.., XD 

家不是讲理的地方，更不是算账的地方，家是一个讲爱的地方.

Being cheerful....

I think many people cannot 'tahan' cheerful people being around them.. they will think that they are fake and naive.. Not everyone thinks that way lar.. but really.. come to think about it.. because the law of attraction, people who have the same characters tends to come together and gel well together.. coz they are similar and they have some how found the kinder spirit friend that shares the same view as them.. 

So it's not easy to find a cheerful person now a days.. cheerful doesn't one lives in the clouds all the time, silly and always in the world of their own.. I believe being cheerful is a choice and a state of mind that we can choose even when we are going through hard times.. again, people will think that it's being fake.. Not necessarily.. yes, I agree sometimes someone is being cheerful just to hide the tears behind those smiles and happiness.. but real cheerful people will really shine and always see the bright side of any given situation.. They will always know that the storm will pass and the sun shine will come again and sometimes even the rainbow will greet them.. 

For those people who cannot stand cheerfulness in someone is a shame... basically when we are like tt, we are actually envious of others happiness and that we cannot appreciate or even share his/her happiness.. I for one if I think the incident is nothing to be happy about, I really cannot share the person's joy.. eg, hearing a person just given his/her virginity before marriage being happy about it.. har? what? what's wrong with you? You may think that I am judgmental, but I am not, I just don't think that is a good idea to be happy for something unethical and something so secrete like sex should only be given to the one and only life time companion, to be given so freely to someone who may not even take care of you when you are sick. I still love and treat the person the same way but please stop being happy for the wrong reason.. I can't stand it.. 

The perception of right and wrong is so diluted that who ever feeds the wrong kind of cheerfulness will encourage the wrong kind of value.. Let say I CAN feel happy together with this person and share his/her happiness not because I believe tt it is right but because I don't want to judge or don't want to become unpopular.. what will happened to the person perception? he/she will think tt is it acceptable and continue having the dilution that this is a great thing and he/she will spread it like wild flower because no one told him/her that actually this is not such a great idea.. 

That is what happen to many ppl now a days right? because your friends support you, you feel you are on top of the world and you can conquer anything! Even though it is wrong, you wouldn't say that to a friend, would you? I want to challenge you to do your friend a favor.. if the person is being cheerful for the wrong reason, smack the fella back into reality and still love them.. When I say smack,it is for those who are very close to you.. for the not so close friends.. tell them in humility about the reality of it.. remember... the key here is humility.. no both sides.. 

I am a cheerful person :D and sometimes ppl can't stand me also.. because they feel tt I am showing off.. even though I have a good and great reason to be happy, not everyone can understand it.. (but some of my crazy friends will!! HAHAHAHAHAH!!!) 

My current fav dish.. Actually, I have always loved salad.. Yummy~~~

Ever since I started trying to make my own salad in 2002 with my then house mate, I really fell in love with it.. 

After that, I tried different type of salad dressings and different combinations of veggies/fruits etc.. 

Now, I am back on salad craz again!!! After taking a chance on a rather expensive salad dressing, smallest bottle in their range for the same price.. So logically, it should be the best one so I tried it! This is what happens when we take some risk on trying on new stuff.. Absolutely delightful dish!! 

The salad dressing is RM 19.90 for 140ml... Not much for that kind of price. But it's nice.. Hmmm... 

Most of the time I add mixed nuts with my salad.. Sooo nice.. Then sometimes I have bacon in my salad.. Heavenly.. Then this morning, I add an avocado.. Wow!! Taste so good!! I really love salad!! 

I'd love to have this for my Christmas present hahaha.. 

And I am so salad crazy now that yesterday when my family and I went to have McD for dinner, I have no appetite to eat and I keep thinking about my salad.. 我已经中毒了！hahaha 中salad的毒！ hahahaha farny!! 

Hope you enjoy the pictures hehehe

The more I read..

...the more inadequate I feel for this position that I am in.. What have I been reading? LinkedIn articles.. of course I am reading the best minds and thoughts of the industry and many of which I admire their talent and experience.. many of them are managers, philosophers, business owners, entrepreneurs etc.. great mind indeed.. thus of course I feel inadequate... I am now in the Human Resource industry where supporting HR practitioners are my main responsibility and introducing them to a profitable platform is my goal (since I am doing corporate sales for my website.) 

Being a new person in the industry, I believe I must learn and read as much and as quickly as I can to really understand this industry... and wow am I getting that heavy downloading session everyday.. hahaha.. i enjoyed it for the most part and it has help me learn to read better.. Learning even the secret of the trade if you will as I gather some gems and jewels from different articles that I have read.. 

Then I realize....

Wow.. these people is really passionate about their job and what they do.. not just as HR practitioners but as business men/women; entrepreneurs, leaders, IT specialist etc.. they really love what they do!! Got me asking this question again.. What do I love to do? and why am I not doing it as my vocation? haih.. I am Jack of all trade but master of none.. got lar.. Master of something that has yet to make ends meat for my family or even for myself.. LOL.. i asked this question before in my youth group.. what would we do should money is not the object.. many interesting ans from my youth.. travel and eat all the food in the countries that they travel, go missions, become who ever they want to become.. BUT.. money is the object.. for our daily lives and to help ensure our children's future would be a more comfortable one.. 

Yet it doesn't mean we cannot do what we love at all.. :) i love to travel too.. but if really i get to choose my dream vocation, that would be to sit at home and make crafts, scrap booking, cards, recycle ideas, room decor, sewing etc.. anything that is craft related.. but these things could not pay the bills, especially here in MY.. but I love to do it and sometimes I make time to do it to keep my passion and love evergreen.. :) 

When I was in Uni, one of my friend know me well enough to buy me 3 coloured pen of gold, silver and multi-colour.. hahaha coz he knows I like to make crafts/cards at the time.. I love receiving all kinds of gifts.. I love them all :) any kind.. but the best gift is something I can use for my craft projects.. hehehe.. and of course un-used stamps would be my next best gift.. coz I collect un-used stamps... but back to my hubby, ya.. I love to learn crafts or any special skills that I can make something to decorate or to be used. Love to make soap too! hahaha.. 

oh well, perhaps one day.. I can afford to retire comfortably and star my own small business to make crafts.. ;) 

My Emotional IQ test..

The following is a summarized version of your results, categorized as Strengths, Potential Strengths, and Limitation.

Strengths

·	You are doing well in the area of Emotional Identification, Perception, and Expression

·	You are emotionally self-aware

·	You are comfortable with emotions in general

·	You typically act in accordance with your values

·	You are doing well in the area of Emotional Understanding

·	You performed well on the emotional integration aspect of the test

·	You chose good forms of resolution for others' conflict situations on the test

·	You are socially insightful

·	You show good self-control

·	You are driven toward further self-development

·	You are able to let go/rise above minor issues

·	The manner in which YOU would resolve conflict situations on the test was healthy

·	You have a healthy level of self-esteem

·	You seem to be quite content

·	You are flexible

Potential Strengths

·	You have a satisfactory emotional IQ level

·	You are somewhat aware of your strengths and weaknesses

·	You were sometimes able to recognize the emotions depicted on the test

·	You are doing reasonably well in the area of Emotional Facilitation of Thought

·	You do not ruminate excessively, which is good, but you also may not give things sufficient thought

·	Your approach to problem solving is sometimes conducive to resolution

·	Your mindset is moderately positive

·	You are somewhat empathetic

·	You are doing reasonably well in the area of Emotional Management

·	You are reasonably resilient/hardy

·	You are reasonably self-motivated

·	You are sometimes able/willing to adapt your social skills to the circumstances around you

·	You are moderately assertive

·	You are sometimes able to act independently

Limitations

·	Your impulse control needs improvement

·	You need to work on using more healthy coping techniques